This can be especially true for romantic relationships. “How quickly I can change from the most rational person to completely irrational and not understanding that I’m being irrational until the time has passed. Paranoia about friends and family not really loving me and thinking they all talk about me behind my back.” — Emma W.
Not looking for any advice or anything, just wanted to let some stuff out. This is regarding my girlfriend who is suffering from borderline personality disorder we are in relationship for the past 9 years. I knew that she has this problem from the day we started dating.
But one recent attempt to get through to her she actually admitted she might have a problem and shes sorry for putting my feelings aside and she wants to fix things etc. But my joy was short lived because 20 minutes later she was already back to saying she doesnt have a problem and its not her fault and im blaming her for everything. Last year I met a girl, when we started talking she told she is diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. I gave her that for 3 months but in between I mailed her twice about what I felt. I tried to get in touch with her and she shrugged me off.
How to Cope With BPD and Lying
BPD is often hard to manage and treat, it’s true. But people can and do learn to live with it. It’s unhelpful to keep telling people with BPD that they may not recover, because it risks becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy and may prevent them from seeking help.
They become experts at hopping from relationship to relationship; this way they never have to finish grieving the previous relationship nor resolve past predicaments. Ironically, all of their strategies for avoiding pain result in more pain. I was curious though if there were a lot of people experiencing the same thing. I was going to mention that there maybe something familiar in these people that draws you to them. This might be something to discuss with your therapist. Staying away from dating apps seems a good way of avoiding them i guess.
Dating A Girl With BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Your family member or loved one with BPD may be extremely sensitive, so small things can often trigger intense reactions. A few days later, I was filled with self-loathing because I couldn’t figure out why I’d reacted so strongly. We’d only been dating for a few months, and I felt like I’d already morphed into the girlfriend from hell. And that wasn’t the last time it would happen.
Just started dating a wonderful BPD girl. Any advice is welcomed.
After 3 days back, she told me she wasn’t sure about our relations anymore and had “terrible doubts”. I’ve read a hundred things about how these girls can make you feel and I understand each and every one of them because I’m living it and want to continue living it. I envision myself in situations that run out of control and how I’ll handle them. We had an interaction that had me off balance near the beginning of our situation where she’d convinced herself I might not be real.
Personality Types, Traits, and How it Affects Mental Health
Hi, what a relief to find others in my situation… I’d like to share my experience with the most wonderful, beautiful and loving girl a man could hope for. I had two of this relationships, i was married to one and right after divorce went right to another BPD relationship because thats all i knew. Yup my advice is to just let her go do her thing. Kind of fucked up but hey we live in a fucked up world. Life is hard right now but I have to be strong for my daughter.
We got along great the first couple of months, then I would get a bizarre text from her accusing me of something ridiculous. Or having an extreme reaction to something “minor” while together. “You didn’t take any pictures of us this weekend” followed by F bombs and fighting. She has since used the flight response whenever fights got intense, packing up her things and leaving mid-weekend, regardless of what was planned. In one case she packed up MY things and told me “I had a train to catch”.
I just think some struggle more than others. In my case, it was one of the hardest times of my life. I used to cut myself, hook up with guys, and want to kill myself. I also had some really hectic stuff happen in my life, which pushed me even further to act out. What it’s like living with borderline personality disorder, and how we get by.
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